In Memory of Pets

Desiree, reading through your posts makes me cry with you. I really wish I could take this pain away from you. I will never forget what it felt like the day I buried my baby Tremor. I too, kept telling myself this is not really happening. As I held her before putting her in the coffin, I swear that I felt her breathe. My mind was playing mean tricks on me. It was very hard for me to accept the fact that she was really gone. I still have trouble accepting it. To be honest, I am so scared that I have to go through this 4 more times with my cats. I can't imagine how I will deal with it.

I understand how you feel about explaining to your daughter that Woody is not coming home. It is a very hard thing to say more than once. I hope that soon she will understand and you two can comfort each other.

Just know that Woody is feeling much better and he is happy at the bridge! He can explore miles and miles of woods now!
Take care
Mandy

Desiree
Im so sorry for your loss of your baby Woody
MY heart goes out to you and your family during this very difficult time
reading your post brought tears to my eyes and i know how you feel till this day i cry for my babies that have passed and i miss them very much but i know that they are at the bridge and one day we will be together again for eternity. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers
God bless
Ester Kobe Peanut

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Oh Desiree,

Oh how your words made me cry with you. It is just so very hard to come to terms with such loss. The knowledge that we can love so much snd yet not be able to save our babies is so very hard to take..... and to bring home the cremains in one way brings comfort but in other ways brings so much pain as well as it is with this collection that the complete reality hits and must be dealt with.

I experienced so much of the same feelings myself, I sat in the car and cried and sobbed ike a baby, I was able to indulge my own pain as I hd no-one there at that point in time to have to comfort and explain things to! I must say that you are providing a very good example to your little girl, that being the love for and importance of all creatures..... your little Woodie especially as being part of your family...

Woody Pie is still with his momma, with his family, in your hearts and memories, in spirit at the bridge (and hopefully visits to you in your sleep via the form of dreams) and waiting patiently at the bridge!

My thoughts and prayers are with you all,

Kerry

Thank you everyone, I think you understand how much this site is helping me.
I took my girls out to play ball yesterday. I needed to spend some time having fun with them, they have given me so much comfort.It was a little hard because Woody was never much for playing ball so usually Id sit on the steps to my backyard and throw the ball for the girls and he would just sit next to me and nudge me until I'd put my arm around him then when the girls had gotton their exercise him and I would take a walk together, just me and him. I really missed that yesterday. But in a way I felt him there, and I know how much the girls needed it. I was atleast able to laugh at how much fun they had and how tired they got(It's been awhile since I ran them that hard.
Still crying at night, but as I said befor I'm glad he's home with me now in the only physical way he can be, and yes he still comes to me in between wake and sleep and that is when he tells me he's ok I truely do believe he is happy and having fun and waiting for us all to be together again someday.
Thanks again ,talk to you soon.
Desiree

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Woody-Pie's Mommy

Tomorrow will be 1 month since my boy left me.
It feel longer I still miss him so much. The sadness hasn't gone away, I've just gotton better at hiding it (something I learned to do a long time ago) I catch myself still looking for him, still takeing three treats out instead of two, still longing for his comfort. The whole thing is still fresh in my mind, and sometimes I can't help replaying it. The "what if's" are so hard to take. Even though all his recent check ups and exams had been good, For about a month befor he passed I had a feeling he wasn't going to make it til Christmas. Actually I was surprised he made it to our new home. I remember telling my nephew that I didn't think he was gonna make it. Maybe it was some form of "Mother's intuition"
I"ve thought alot about it, and I'm not sure I'd want him to reincarnate to come back to me in the physical sense as this would only mean the pain of loosing him again.
I look at my Golden who is 8 and think I can't go through this again and again and again...
I love my pets I just wish loosing them didn't have to hurt so much.Still nothing can replace what the all have given to me in return for my love for them.
I miss him so much and wish I could just kiss him one more time..
Woody pie my sweetheart boy, Mommy loves you and you are forever my favoritist boy in the whole wide universe.
Love Mommy.

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Woody-Pie's Mommy

Hi Desiree,

We completely understand. we all look at our new, or remaining furkids and wonder if, or how we could possibly cope with such a terrible loss again...

Fear can be such a debilitating emotion.

I suppose, that fear can also give us a sweeter taste of life, everything is more precious when we realise that every single moment is a gift, a fleeting gift as every second is unique of itself and we will never get it back....

I once had a very poor diagnosis from some medical tests that gave me an extremely poor prognosis, in fact a very shortened lifespn - I was scared and feared for my life..... before I got (demanded) a new round of tests done and found that it wasn't what they originally thought... I spent a week writing letters of appreciation, thanks and love to all the people who meant the most to me and without mentioning what had spurred me on to do so, I sent them off....

After a few weeks, I had now results in more ways than one - firstly - I had my health pretty much intact (I just had to recover from an operation and the infection that had sent me into hospital) and the other result was more powerful than I could have imagine was that many of my relationships had changed too....

We rarely tell people how we really feel, or how much they mean to us until too late..... well... I had done it, and although I was initially a little embarresed about pouring my heart out, well... it was a very empowering thing to have let peopel know that they were well loved and cared for - and what started out as a 'one off' has now become a habit for me - I never leave my close friends or family without telling them that I love them - my feelings are never in doubt....

The final outcome from my minor ordeal was that I appreciated life and everything more....

What I am tryine (poorly) to say is that we can only make the most of every person whether human, furry or feathered. Every relationship is special and precious and we all suffer yet survive our losses.... love deeply, let go of the fear - for the knowledge of love, and the loving and the being loved DEEPLY will be the elements that will allow you to endure.

Take care and know that you are in my thoughts and prayers!

Kerry

it's been a month now that he's been gone. It hurts so much I want to turn back time a few years a few months, anything just to spend more time with him. I was in my truck tonight and reached in the back for something and it all came flooding back.. That horror I felt when I knew he had stopped breathing and I couldn't feel his heart.. Sometimes I think I'm still in shock. I still don't know how I drove home that night from the vet. When he left I just went numb.
I know I'm burying alot of my pain I don't know how to face the fact that he's gone and he's not coming back. It's so hard to fall asleep at night without crying.. for 10 years he slept above my head on the pillows. I can't get use to not feeling him there.

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Woody-Pie's Mommy

Hi Desiree,

Yes it is so hard, I am here for you. I have been in that same place as you many times myself with the same sad thoughts..... and I know I will be goingthere again....

Take care and know you are supported and understood!

Kerry

Thank you Kerry,
The last two days I've really felt Woody around me, in my minds eye I keep seeing him there lokking at me like "mom why aren't you petting me" I'm so afraid he doesn't understand. I would give almost anything to reach out and hug him.
I'm trying so hard to bond closer with my girls, it's hard they're not sure how to take, as long as they both remember Woody got most of the attention, mainly because He was more docile than either of them. When I try to give attention to the Golden, my mixed breed try's to start a fight, they have always been that way, but I won't give up! I just long to feel the connection I need it so desperately I actually begged God last night to bring him back. I know that isn't possible(atleast in the way I want it) but I couldn't help myself. I just miss him so much....

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Woody-Pie's Mommy

Hi Desiree,

I do not want to create controversey, however, perhaps like many here you will feel that your furkid has come back... that your Woody has returned to be with you again....

Perhaps, one day, if you visit a shelter or decide to foster a furkid who is at risk for a while.... perhaps it could occur in another way.....

However, you may find a pair of eyes that will not leave you alone, someone who wants to be with you desperately....

Many of us here believe that our beloved RB companions give us a task of caring of perform, some may just guide us to where another needs us, or in some lucky cases, part of their soul returns....

I feel that my boy hasn't 'come back' to me in a physical form.... just his love and energy... that guides me and allows me to do my rescue work...

Maybe one day I will see those eyes and know it is him... but I can never be sure.. however there is a resident in my heart that is so purely there that I know my little Sammy is with me always anyway!

Take care Desiree.... thianking of you and all of your sweet babies....

Kerry

Thank you kerry,
Your words have helped so much, because you are so genuine.
I have rescued a few animals in the last 15 years. I use to say there was a sign outside my door that said strays welcome.
Some I've found homes for 2 I kept. Inever would have kept the 2 I did had my beloved Cali the cat still been around. I really believe she sent them to me after she left (honestly on earth she disliked anyone and every thing but me)
I don't know that Woody will come back in the physical form but one day he will lead me to another little boy who desperatly needs a loving mom. I'll also know by looking in this fur babies eyes. This is the way his legacy will continue, maybe Sammy has the same plans for you.
Take care of yourself, alot of people really appreciate you here.
Desiree[/i]

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Woody-Pie's Mommy

I miss my boy so much. I try so hard to give my girls the love and attention I use to give to him, and most of the time it feels good because I love them and I'm so happy they are here. But there are times when I just miss him so much and I'll hug and kiss one of the girls so desperate for it to be him and it's like eating a potato chip and trying to convince your mind it's a cupcake because it's a cupcake that you really want and you can't have one. I know that all sounds kinda wierd and silly but thats the best way I can explain how I feel.
I'm really glad I have this place to come to where others completely understand what I am saying and feeling. This is so much harder than I could ever believe it would be. He meant so much to me and I still can't believe he's gone from this world. Sometimes I feel him so close but just out of reach, It's like were seperated by a fence that we can't brake through or climb under or dig under and were both just sitting there waiting...
I miss my boy so much.
Desiree

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Woody-Pie's Mommy

Oh Desiree,

You have described that longing so well... we sure do understand how you feel, because we too feel that same way.

Take care

Kerry

Hi Desiree,

I've been struggling with a similar issue - my Mocha has been gone just less than a week now, and I can't bring myself to put as much energy into playing with my remaining ratlettes as I used to. Its not that they aren't special to me, or that I don't love them...its just so painful. The trio is not complete without her. Mocha was very gentle and quiet, and my other girls are rambunctious and loud...the cage dynamic is completely different now. I still find myself looking for her in her favourite sleeping places.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby. I wish there was more that I could say to comfort you. Woody will always been in your heart and your memories...he will always continue to shape your life. We are all here for you, and we understand.

It's amazing to me how it seems to hit me out if the blue.Sometimes Woody will just come to mind out of nowhere and I miss him so much I want to scream. Lastnight I was watching T.V and just started crying . I wanted so much to feel his head on my lap and rub the soft spot behind his ears.
After many years of ear infections I had perfected the art of ear rubs. I am starting to smile when I think of him and remember how silly and innocent and loving he was. I have a picture of him beside my bed of him at around a year old , he's holding a huge empty bag of his food in his mouth. I laughed thinking of how many times he'd get his head stuck in those bags making sure I didn't leave any kibbles in there. The look in his eye's reassured me he was happy and new how much I loved hoim and still do.
The other day I got something in the mail from"The Companion Animal Memorial Fund" (based at the university of Chicago". When Woody passed my Vet made a monetary donation in Woody's name. It really touched my heart. I can't imagine it was very much money but thats not the point. It just made me happy to know that the Vet had done that, that he cares for animals so much that he helps to fund research and train new vets(this is what the funds go to )
Strangely I seem to be getting alot of comfort from my male cat Noah. The rest of my pets are female maybe thats why I am bonding to him.Woody's fur was very soft and petting Noah is very similar. Lokking for comfort in any way I can I suppose(nothing wrong with that)
I just can't believe how much I miss my sweet boy.
Desiree

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Woody-Pie's Mommy